Quilts and Queers

therealspiderman:

“Transgender people have a 1-in-12 chance of being murdered, compared to the 1-in-18,000 chance faced by average Americans (Human Rights Campaign, 2009).”

just let that sink in for a second.

friendlyangryfeminist:

1. you don’t need to learn to enjoy a sexual act to be a better person or really for any reason. 
2. “not wanting to” is enough of a reason to not. 
3. anyone who frames a sexual act as inherently radical is lying, there is nothing inherently radical about: squirting, anal sex, penetrative sex, threesomes, or pegging
4. the idea that you can only get true pleasure through doing things you’re deeply uncomfortable with and don’t want to do is Not Okay

I dunno. I’d argue that some stuff is inherently radical.

Like me. I’m a disabled person who has sex. That’s fuckin’ radical. No, really. It’s so outside the bounds of what society says can happen. People in wheelchairs, people with service dogs, people with canes, walkers, power scooters, ALL HAVE SEX. And that’s RADICAL. 

I’m a trans* person who has a lot of really happy, good sex. Which society tells me shouldn’t happen. It tells me that I’m gonna die alone and unloved, that I can’t find people who will love me and my body. So my sex is radical, it shatters the binary our society is built around. 

My life is kinda radical, and sex is part of that. So… Yeah. 

Reblog this if you’re trans and you ever got picked on for being gender variant when you were little

I’m curious

Things I should start asking cis people.

justaquickquestion:

littlelostdragon:

“How long have you known?”

“When did you start being cis?”

*random intrusive questions about genitalia*

“How do you know you’re not trans?”

“Aren’t you afraid you’ll regret your decision not to transition?”

“But… If you’ve never had to fight for your gender identity how do you know?”

fromonesurvivortoanother:

snatching-fedoras:

stalungrad:

Hello, trans friends and followers of mine, and anyone checking the tags.  A trans comedian friend of mine is asking her trans Facebook friends whether they have a problem telling people what their name used to be.  Anyone fancy talking about this?  Specifically, of those who don’t like it known, she wants to know why.

Yes, I have a problem with people knowing my birth name. I will give a list of reasons why.

1. If I tell people, they may take it as permission to call me that, even though no such permission was ever granted.

2. If I tell anyone, they may use it to out me—I am very far removed from my birth assignment in presentation and I am read as cismale. I don’t want to be at risk of harassment/threatening behaviour or physical attacks.

3. Nobody feels entitled to the birth names of cis people who’ve had name changes or use stage names, and nobody points these out at every opportunity to make sure we’re “not being misled”. For example, Katy Perry used to be Katy Hudson, you don’t see the Katy Hudson name being plastered on every article to do with her. Doesn’t happen to Prince or Lady Gaga either. Trans* people’s names should be respected as much as cis people’s.

whoa i had never thought about #3 before.

So here’s the deal. I hated my birth name before I even knew I was trans*. I didn’t feel like it represented me and it just… Wasn’t a good name. 

When people ask me what my name used to be I’m like… Imma kill you. Not to mention seeing it makes me angry because it makes me think about people who don’t respect me, who don’t want to use the correct pronouns, who make me fight to be myself. 

So what you think you’re asking is “That’s cool, what did your old name used to be?” what you’re really asking is “Oh, let me ask this deeply personal question about this really traumatising part of your life, is that alright? No, I don’t really care about your mental health or well being, why do you ask?” 

SO JUST THINK BEFORE YOU’RE A DIPSHIT, alright?